In our modern culture, it seems progress towards gender equality is being on the right side of history. Well guess what, I agree with them. I think women should be paid as much, and the lines between gender roles has been blurring more and more – as more activities and jobs have become mixed-sex. However, as much as we are blurring the lines in many respects towards gender roles, there still seem to be some differences between men and women.
Fuckboy is a term you might hear or read a woman use to describe a guy who had sex with her, but doesn’t really want anything more than that. It has a negative connotation – in the sense that the woman is wanting the relationship to progress, but the guy is only interested in fulfilling his own lust. If guys and girls are similar in attitudes toward sex, I am wondering where all the fuckgirls are at. Well, there are none that I know of. Why? Well, that’s because guys have their own negative connotation – high maintenance. eHarmony’s blog describes high maintenance pretty well:
She makes hoop-jumping seem like a normal part of dating, is constantly making their partners prove their worthiness either through displays of affection, commitment or status – which she may or may not reciprocate.eHarmony Blog; Do High Maintenance Women Snag Better Mates?
That blog article may make it seem it’s a good thing, but to many men, it isn’t. You might be thinking a high maintenance woman is a woman who has expensive tastes or demands a lot of attention. But in some references by men, it means a woman who is difficult to get into bed. In the hunt for sex, it is a women who is putting up obstacles. Why would a woman want to be high maintenance? Well, this article sells being high maintenance pretty well:
Now, say you’re the girl who doesn’t need anything (or at least doesn’t act like you do). Mr. Good Man will not pick you as a partner. He may sleep with you, but he won’t date you or marry you.Your Tango; Why High Maintenance Women Will ALWAYS Get The Best Guys
If generally women were just as interested in casual sex as much as men, wouldn’t all the sex you’re having be enough? It is for most men. There is a saying that I think is overly simplistic, but has some truth to it: Men use love to get sex, and women use sex to get love.
If you browsed online dating, you’ll see some themes. The most common theme on male profiles is no drama or not looking for any drama. The most common theme on female profiles is no hook-ups or if you are looking for a hook-up, swipe left. The question I have is why are so many women denying a hook-up? Isn’t that what casual sex is? I would think it would be apparent that if both sexes want the same thing, we should have matching profiles. It is because both sexes don’t want the same thing – or to be precise, the context of sex is different. That is not stating a woman does not want sex or will not have sex on a first date, but there still is a psychological difference – that becomes even more apparent after.
Context is Everything
The most common argument to what I have written is that women are slut-shamed for being promiscuous. If we got rid of all the social stigma related to labeling women sluts or whores, they would be engaging in casual sex without any apprehension. That is mostly false. Women are generally not like men. They are not watching the same type of pornography men are. They are not google searching for big dicks as nearly as much as men are. They do not get aroused as quick as men or in the same way. Typically, men are not describing casual sex as empty and meaningless. That is because women do not view sex in the same way men do. Do they want sex? Of course! The difference is they typically want it to be with the right guy, not just any guy. That doesn’t seem so casual to me. . . Now men on the other hand . . .